When Risk Pays Off

Some of these “risky” topics overlap, but today’s writing prompt is:

Name a time when a risk you took paid off.

Well, I shared a post yesterday about an enormous risk that paid off, in the sparing of three young lives. This time I’ll share another life-changing risk that has paid off for me.

After my nearly 20-year marriage to my daughters’ father ended in divorce, during the same time period when I lost my Dad to lymphoma, I figured there was no point in believing I would ever find true love and happiness, or ever be married again.

I cautiously tried online dating, only to be disappointed and/or disgusted that so many men in my age range tended to be so “piggish” and more interested in casual sex than in building a meaningful relationship. Perhaps all those years of marriage made me naive about the realities of the dating world.

After a few months of that, and about the time I was ready to give up, I found a profile on a new (at the time) dating site called LoveAccess of a handsome man in Maine named Dave, with some noteworthy similar interests. This was in early December 2002.  It turned out the attraction was mutual, and we spent hours every night and on weekends, chatting online. We were both intrigued and impressed by one another’s ability to communicate well.

On New Year’s Eve, after chatting for a few hours and as the midnight hour approached, Dave asked if he could call me so we could welcome in the new year of 2003. I agreed and — I know it probably sounds silly — I instantly loved his voice. We talked as 2003 arrived, and then made plans to meet in person at some point in January.

The silly man drove through a blizzard to meet me in the parking lot of a popular restaurant in Gilford, New Hampshire — and honestly, it was as romantic as any movie scene, as we both jumped out of our vehicles at the same time, embraced, and as snowflakes clung to my eyelashes, Dave gave me a tender kiss. (OK, at this point, you’re probably either saying, “Awww!” or “Oh brother!”)

Anyway, as they say, the rest is history. We visited back and forth for a few months between New Hampshire and Maine – and then I moved here to Maine in May 2003. Our relationship experienced some highs and lows, but we grew stronger in our love and respect for one another. Dave asked me to marry him on Christmas 2005 and we got married on February 11, 2006, in a small wedding ceremony at his dad and step-mom’s house.

Dave and me with our wedding cake on February 11, 2006.

Since Dave never had children in any previous relationships (and was never married before) and my four “kids” are now all young adults, we have instead welcomed “fur babies” into our family (dogs and cats).  Then in September 2012, we became grandparents for the first time as my youngest daughter and son-in-law welcomed their beautiful baby girl into the world.

Yes, I would say this risk paid off. How about you? What risks have you taken that have worked out well for you?

 

10 thoughts on “When Risk Pays Off

  1. I lost a job in 1986 when the company I worked for went bankrupt! Instead of pounding the pavement to find a job, I called the bank handling the bankruptcy auction and gained access to the print shop.

    I took the customer rolodex and went home to make phone calls. I took a risk doing that, but it paid off. I’m still running the business after 17 years. 🙂
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  2. Beautiful beautiful story Karen. I can feel the love you two have for each other and I can feel how significant it was for you to open your heart again and let love it.

    I just wrote a blog today about letting joy in which is along a similar vein (http://www.journeytoabundance.com.au/1/post/2013/03/what-kind-of-joy-is-waiting-for-you.html)

    There are so many reasons we block, love, joy, and other forms of positivity and often it comes down to fear. The risk is feeling the fear and doing it anyway. The risk is uncertainty of what will happen to our open hearts if we let ourselves be that vulnerable.

    You took the leap and you were rewarded with your hearts desires.

    A beautiful story Karen. I wish you and Dave a bright and love filled future.

    To your happiness & harmony,
    Susan

    P.S. This brings tears to my eyes and a warmth to my heart!! 🙂

  3. What a beautiful story! Thanks for sharing.

    One of the biggest risks I took is when I was 20. I joined the Air Force. I had no idea which end was up and it was time to get some direction. I was in for five years and I truly enjoyed it!
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  4. YAAAAAAAAAY!!!! What a lovely story Karen!!! It does indeed sound like a movie where you are rooting for the main characters to finally meet and seal the deal 🙂 Than you so much for sharing it–definitely worth the risk! Let’s see..for me, one risk I have taken was moving to LA with less than $300 in my wallet. I ended up meeting amazing people, finding a cool job and digging my time there, so it all worked out! Definitely worth the adventure and lessons 🙂 Thank you!
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  5. Since 2004 when I graduated high school, I was in and out of college. I couldn’t decide what I wanted to do. After meeting my husband, he gave me the push to get back into school and enroll in the holistic massage therapy program. I wasn’t sure I’d like it, but it was a skill that I could make money on that let me nurture people. It turns out that I LOVE it. It was a risk, but I can’t imagine doing anything else.

    Your story is totally awwwww-worthy, by the way! Glad to hear you’re happy.
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  6. Taking a risk? I’m not sure about that. We (my husband and I) recently took what I call a leap of faith. About all I can say about it is that I don’t have a clear sense of God’s will, but I simply said a prayer that went something like this: Ok, God, I’m taking a step of faith here. (I’ll let you know how it turns out).

    Thanks so much for sharing your story. I love happy endings.
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