Top List Tuesday: Top Reflection for October 2 – Becoming a Mom, 37 Years Ago!

I First Became a Mom 37 Years Ago Today!

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A slight variation from my usual “Top List Tuesday” format…but my top reflections on this day are of becoming a mom!

On this day 37 years ago–October 2, 1981I became a Mom for the first time. My son, Andrew James, entered the world on that morning at the Lakes Region General Hospital in Laconia, New Hampshire.

In attendance at the birth were my mother, due to her nursing career there at LRGH, along with other medical staff. My Dad waited nearby, anxiously awaiting the arrival of his first grandchild. Noticeably absent was my son’s father–essentially only a “sperm donor” because the marriage only lasted a few months, during which time he denied even being responsible for my pregnancy, even as he engaged in an affair with another woman.

Negatives aside…it was an amazing experience to see that little one who had taken up residence in my womb for nine months, finally come forth. Our circumstances at the time were less than ideal, since I was a divorced single mother living at home with my parents only about a year and a half after graduating from college with big hopes and dreams. Yet, together, we gave little Andy the loving family and nurturing home environment every child deserves.

 

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            Dad/Grampy trying to put socks on Andy’s feet!

 

Within a couple years, I met and married my second husband, who legally adopted then 2-year-old Andy, and with whom I eventually had three daughters. Our life together was certainly not perfect, but we did our best to raise our family in a loving environment by God’s principles, even though our marriage ended after about 20 years together.

 

In spite of hardships, Andrew has become a multi-talented, creative individual — creativity seems to run in the family! He picked up some of his Grampy’s artistic talent in painting.  Andrew also engages in creative photography and graphic design; he writes and is a published author (check out his author’s site HERE); and he has become quite the musician and rap artist as well.

 

On February 11, 2006, I was blessed to have Andrew accompany me and “present” me to Dave at our small family-and-friends wedding at Dave’s father’s and step-mom’s house.

 

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           Andy accompanying me at my wedding to Dave

 

Fast forward to today, on Andrew’s 37th birthday, and he lives much too far away on the other side of the country from Maine, in New Mexico! I am proud of him for all the obstacles he has overcome, for his dedication to serving God, for using his God-given gifts, for the goals he has achieved and continues to strive toward, for the responsible husband he has become to my only daughter-in-love, Alisia (Lisi) … and for now being a daddy to their first child, and my fourth granddaughter, baby Shara Nicole!

 

A recent long awaited visit with my son and my daughter-in-love!
A wonderful visit with my son and my daughter-in-love in March 2016!

 

Andy with newborn Shara, July 2017
Granddaughter Shara, July 2018

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Reflecting on his 37 years of life, from baby to little boy, to a young man who is now a husband, and a daddy, I’m reminded of this poem:

Cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow,

For babies grow up, we’ve learned to our sorrow.

So quiet down, cobwebs,

Dust, go to sleep.

I’m rocking my baby, and babies don’t keep.”

~~Anonymous

 

I would encourage all you parents of little ones–even if your circumstances are less than ideal–enjoy your children while you can, because they do indeed grow up much too fast and then they’re involved in lives of their own, sometimes VERY far away.

Love you and miss you, my son! 

Happy 37th Birthday!!

 

How about you readers?

 

Do you have young children still at home?

 

Or are you also an “empty nester” with all the children grown and out of the house?

 

 

One of Andrew's books
                               One of Andrew’s books

 

16 thoughts on “Top List Tuesday: Top Reflection for October 2 – Becoming a Mom, 37 Years Ago!”
  1. This speaks to me. My little guy will be turning five in a few short weeks and it just seems like he is growing up so fast. Your love for your family is very clear. You are a great mom!

  2. Wow, this is such a nice article to read and I felt how you missed your son while reading this letter. Hope you have a wonderful birthday!

  3. This touched my heart! The love you have for your son was felt with everything you said. I’m sorry you had to go through what you did earlier in his life but you seemed to have made it out the other side and is blooming! When I get to your age I hope to have accomplished your richness in love and gratuity. All the best!

  4. I still have all of my kids at home but I have already realized how quickly time goes. My oldest is 12 and I feel like I just had a baby.

  5. This was so lovely indeed. I can feel the emotion and love in your beautiful words. Happy Birthday to your son.

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