Top List Tuesday: Top Reflection for October 2 – Becoming a Mom, 37 Years Ago!

I First Became a Mom 37 Years Ago Today!



A slight variation from my usual “Top List Tuesday” format…but my top reflections on this day are of becoming a mom!

On this day 37 years ago–October 2, 1981I became a Mom for the first time. My son, Andrew James, entered the world on that morning at the Lakes Region General Hospital in Laconia, New Hampshire.

In attendance at the birth were my mother, due to her nursing career there at LRGH, along with other medical staff. My Dad waited nearby, anxiously awaiting the arrival of his first grandchild. Noticeably absent was my son’s father–essentially only a “sperm donor” because the marriage only lasted a few months, during which time he denied even being responsible for my pregnancy, even as he engaged in an affair with another woman.

Negatives aside…it was an amazing experience to see that little one who had taken up residence in my womb for nine months, finally come forth. Our circumstances at the time were less than ideal, since I was a divorced single mother living at home with my parents only about a year and a half after graduating from college with big hopes and dreams. Yet, together, we gave little Andy the loving family and nurturing home environment every child deserves.


            Dad/Grampy trying to put socks on Andy’s feet!


Within a couple years, I met and married my second husband, who legally adopted then 2-year-old Andy, and with whom I eventually had three daughters. Our life together was certainly not perfect, but we did our best to raise our family in a loving environment by God’s principles, even though our marriage ended after about 20 years together.


In spite of hardships, Andrew has become a multi-talented, creative individual — creativity seems to run in the family! He picked up some of his Grampy’s artistic talent in painting.  Andrew also engages in creative photography and graphic design; he writes and is a published author (check out his author’s site HERE); and he has become quite the musician and rap artist as well.


On February 11, 2006, I was blessed to have Andrew accompany me and “present” me to Dave at our small family-and-friends wedding at Dave’s father’s and step-mom’s house.


           Andy accompanying me at my wedding to Dave


Fast forward to today, on Andrew’s 37th birthday, and he lives much too far away on the other side of the country from Maine, in New Mexico! I am proud of him for all the obstacles he has overcome, for his dedication to serving God, for using his God-given gifts, for the goals he has achieved and continues to strive toward, for the responsible husband he has become to my only daughter-in-love, Alisia (Lisi) … and for now being a daddy to their first child, and my fourth granddaughter, baby Shara Nicole!


A recent long awaited visit with my son and my daughter-in-love!
A wonderful visit with my son and my daughter-in-love in March 2016!


Andy with newborn Shara, July 2017
Granddaughter Shara, July 2018













Reflecting on his 37 years of life, from baby to little boy, to a young man who is now a husband, and a daddy, I’m reminded of this poem:

Cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow,

For babies grow up, we’ve learned to our sorrow.

So quiet down, cobwebs,

Dust, go to sleep.

I’m rocking my baby, and babies don’t keep.”



I would encourage all you parents of little ones–even if your circumstances are less than ideal–enjoy your children while you can, because they do indeed grow up much too fast and then they’re involved in lives of their own, sometimes VERY far away.

Love you and miss you, my son! 

Happy 37th Birthday!!


How about you readers?


Do you have young children still at home?


Or are you also an “empty nester” with all the children grown and out of the house?



One of Andrew's books
                               One of Andrew’s books


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16 comments to “Top List Tuesday: Top Reflection for October 2 – Becoming a Mom, 37 Years Ago!”

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  1. Bee RaNature El - October 3, 2018 Reply

    No matter the so-called years, being a mom never gets old!!!

  2. chevelle - October 3, 2018 Reply

    This speaks to me. My little guy will be turning five in a few short weeks and it just seems like he is growing up so fast. Your love for your family is very clear. You are a great mom!

  3. Evelyn Hernandez - October 4, 2018 Reply

    Happy 37th birthday to your son. It is so amazing to see our children grow from babies to men. Awesome feeling!

  4. Kristine Nicole Alessandra - October 6, 2018 Reply

    Wow, this is such a nice article to read and I felt how you missed your son while reading this letter. Hope you have a wonderful birthday!

  5. Ruth I - October 6, 2018 Reply

    Happy birthday to him! I have no kids but i take care of my niece. You are amazing and a strong woman!

  6. Tami - October 6, 2018 Reply

    Wow, 37 years! I had my children at the age of 20, 22, and 36. My middle child will have her first child at the age of 20, as well. Motherhood is such a blessing, despite all the hard work.
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  7. La Shell Reid - October 6, 2018 Reply

    This touched my heart! The love you have for your son was felt with everything you said. I’m sorry you had to go through what you did earlier in his life but you seemed to have made it out the other side and is blooming! When I get to your age I hope to have accomplished your richness in love and gratuity. All the best!

  8. Yona Williams - October 6, 2018 Reply

    I am in love with that anonymous poem; it’s incredibly sweet. I don’t have any children, so I don’t have anything to reflect upon. What a lovely tribute to your son!
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  9. Cindy Gordon - October 7, 2018 Reply

    What an incredible journey for you! Having kids is a real blessing.

  10. Lynndee - October 7, 2018 Reply

    Such a sweet post and that poem is beautiful. Happy Birthday to your son. My son is only 15-years-old so he’s still here with me. 🙂

  11. David Elliott - October 7, 2018 Reply

    I have a daughter and have had to deal with some of the things you talk about. Raising my daughter separately from her mother. And just trying to hang in there. It’s a life I wouldn’t change though.
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  12. Up Run for Life - October 7, 2018 Reply

    He sounds like an amazing young man. I remember when I became a mom. My daughter made her appearance in Dec 2015. I remember that day vividly too. She has turned into an amazing young woman considering her obstacles.
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  13. Emily - October 7, 2018 Reply

    I still have all of my kids at home but I have already realized how quickly time goes. My oldest is 12 and I feel like I just had a baby.

  14. Elizabeth O - October 8, 2018 Reply

    This was so lovely indeed. I can feel the emotion and love in your beautiful words. Happy Birthday to your son.

  15. Nidhi Fouzdar - October 8, 2018 Reply

    indeed a great journey.

  16. C?t?lina-Iuliana Nini - October 8, 2018 Reply

    I don`t have kids yet but I am honestly looking forward to becoming a mum. I have to say, I am so blessed and I admire my mum so much so hopefully when I will be one I will be at least 10% as good as she is.
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