Risk vs. Reward – When Risk Pays Off


Risk vs. Reward

Before Making a Decision


One of my husband Dave’s favorite sayings is, “Risk vs. Reward” – or simply “R v R” –  when calculating the potential of something being either a good or bad decision.  A blog challenge writing prompt one time related to this:

Name a time when a risk you took paid off.



 So I’ll share a life-changing risk that has paid off for me–and Dave–and turned into a reward that was worth the risk!

My nearly 20-year marriage to my three daughters’ father ended in divorce during the same time period when I lost my Dad to lymphoma. At that time, in the midst of all the turmoil, I figured there was no point in believing I would ever find true love and happiness, or ever be married again.

I cautiously tried online dating, only to be disappointed or disgusted that so many men in my age range tended to be so “piggish” and more interested in casual sex than in building a meaningful relationship. Perhaps all those years of marriage made me naive about the realities of the dating world.

After a few months of that, and about the time I was ready to give up, I found a profile on a new (at the time) dating site called LoveAccessThis handsome man in Maine named Dave had some noteworthy similar interests. This was in early December 2002.  It turned out the attraction was mutual, and we spent hours every night and on weekends, chatting online. We were both intrigued and impressed by one another’s ability to communicate well.


On New Year’s Eve, after chatting for a few hours and as the midnight hour approached, Dave asked if he could call me so we could welcome in the new year of 2003. I agreed and — I know it probably sounds silly — I instantly loved his voice. We talked as 2003 arrived, and then made plans to meet in person at some point in January.

The silly man drove through a blizzard to meet me in the parking lot of a popular restaurant in Gilford, New Hampshire — and honestly, it was as romantic as any movie scene, as we both jumped out of our vehicles at the same time, embraced, and as snowflakes clung to my eyelashes, Dave gave me a tender kiss. (OK, at this point, you’re probably either saying, “Awww!” or “Oh brother!”) 🙂


Anyway, as they say, the rest is history. We visited back and forth for a few months between New Hampshire and Maine – and then I moved here to Maine in May 2003. Our relationship experienced some highs and lows, but we grew stronger in our love and respect for one another. Dave asked me to marry him on Christmas 2005 and we got married on February 11, 2006, in a small wedding ceremony at his dad and step-mom’s house.


Dave and me with our wedding cake on February 11, 2006.


Since Dave never had children in any previous relationships (and was never married before) and my four “kids” are now all young adults, we have instead welcomed “fur babies” into our family (dogs and cats).  We have also become grandparents over the past 4 1/2 years to three beautiful granddaughters, all belonging to my youngest daughter and son-in-law!


                      My Granddaughters


Yes, I would say this risk paid off well

and turned into a reward we both cherish!


                       Hubby Dave and me!


So How About YOU?

What risks have you taken that have worked out well for you?

What do you think about the idea of considering risk vs. reward before making decisions?



5 thoughts on “Risk vs. Reward – When Risk Pays Off”
  1. True. Nobody got rich working 9 to 5. We have to take risks if we deserve luxurious lifestyle and go all in for some dreams that only we can see. Sometimes risk pays off. It is just about that leap of faith. Although I personally can take risks in business or work but am one of the ones who thinks it needs much caution before selecting life partner.
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  2. What a romantic story! I’m glad that you’ve found true love again. My life has been all about taking risks. It’s been scary but I don’t think that I would be the person or the writer than I am now if I had always played it safe.

  3. What a lovely story. It’s one that I relate to. My 3 children were still at school when my 20+ year marriage ended. I too thought I wouldn’t find anyone new, especially as, my then 11 year old, has a disability and will always need caring for. I too was wrong and I met a man through online chat, who didn’t live far from me. He’s been my partner for 15 years now.
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