My Want To Is Fighting with My Have To

Yes, you heard it here first: my “want to” is fighting with my “have to” in a battle for dominance and attention. You know how it goes; there are those things you WANT to do vs. those things you HAVE to do. Sometimes it’s just so hard to get motivated enough to do those necessary things when you have so many other things you would rather be doing.

Photo Credit: Linda James at MotiveWeight Blogspot.

Well, 24 hours later … yes, folks, I started this post last night around this same time — and apparently my want to/need to sleep was greater than any feeling of “have to write” – blog posts or anything else, for that matter, since I kept nodding off and finally gave in and went to bed around 11pm.

Anyway, back on topic; it’s funny, because I had already thought about this “want to-have to” struggle, and then I saw the above image, first on Facebook and then at Linda James’ blog, MotiveWeight. She has so many great images, I could do an entire month’s posts (or more) just highlighting one image each time (hmmm, there’s an idea!) She grants permission to use her images and requests acknowledgement, so here you go, Linda! 😉

So, motivation…not difficult to find when you WANT to do something, but rather scarce when you HAVE to do something. That’s why I liked this image and the saying on it so much. It’s kind of a variation of “Just do it” or “Do it afraid.”

Sometimes we procrastinate, and get distracted and off track with anything but the one thing we have to do. But like the saying on the image, if we just get started, motivation will follow. I can think of numerous examples, from doing housework or running errands to doing my freelance work or grad course assignments to exercising.

I often don’t feel like doing any of those things because I would rather be quilting, reading, blogging, or visiting social networks…or napping or nodding off because I’m exhausted!

Yet once I get started on any of those and other tasks, I’m usually fine as I discover the motivation is there after all and I manage to complete the tasks often in less time and with less aggravation than I had anticipated.

What about you? What type of “want to” tasks do battle with your “have to” tasks? Do you think the saying on the image is true? Why or why not?

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  1. Missy Bell - July 20, 2013 Reply

    This was just what I needed to read. Thank you. I love kickboxing… When I’m there. It’s the getting there I struggle with. I drive 65-95 minutes depending on traffic to go to this particular award-winning dojo. “But there are other things that should get done,” I rationalize. The truth of the matter is, I have 9 classes to fit in before graduating to purple belt. My procrastination and a week of back problems has put me with 11 available days to get there. I really don’t want to go in the morning but I really have to. I almost stayed home. This has given me the mitigation to set my phones alarm.

    Thank you and good night. 😉
    Missy Bell

  2. Tamala - July 20, 2013 Reply

    I battle with going to the gym though once I get there I can be there for at least 2 hours (in most cases anyway.. LOL) I really need to get better about going to the gym (my have to) rather than doing whatever I want to do when that time rolls around (staying I am going to check out your friend Linda’s website now 🙂 Hopefully her images will inspire me the same way they do you.
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  3. Francene Stanley - July 20, 2013 Reply

    I battle with working in the garden. Roses need pruning, but it’s too hard. When I finally do some work outside, I quite enjoy it, although I always end up with scratches which take weeks to recover.
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  4. Jeanne Doyon - July 20, 2013 Reply

    I do think the saying is true–I find it so in my life. Much of the time it’s a writing project. I may have trouble getting started because there are so many angles to approach from. So, I sit. I dabble. I get stuck in the mire of facebook and email. Yet, once I start, the direction comes.

    Thanks for your post and insight to a very common problem 🙂
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  5. Heather - July 20, 2013 Reply

    My “have to” usually wins over my “want to.” For example, I want to work out every day. (I’m in training for the Avon Walk in San Francisco this year). But if my “have to” list is too long or overwhelming, my treadmill is the first thing that gets ignored. I guess I need to make training a “have to.”
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  6. Amy - July 20, 2013 Reply

    Oh, you hit the nail on the head!! I’ve had a week full of “have-tos” and now I just want to indulge in a list of “want-tos.” That’s okay, Sunday is coming, and I try not to fill my schedule too full on that day. Great post, Karen!
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