Free to Be You and Me

Seven days until the end of the Ultimate Blog Challenge for July – and five months until Christmas! Sorry, just had to throw that in there! 🙂  Here’s UBC post #25: free to be the person we are each meant to be!


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I think many times it’s far too easy to compare ourselves and what we can do or not do with other people and their talents and successes. Yet if we do that, we’ll never become all we’re supposed to be if we’re too busy trying to be like someone else.

Likewise, we shouldn’t allow other people to control us, nor should we try to control other people.

There’s a fine line there, though, because it is important to have role models and mentors, and perhaps pattern our lives after their examples–and perhaps serve as role models and mentors for others–but not to the point that we all lose our own personal identities, and fail to follow the plan and purpose for our own lives.


“You don’t have to compare yourself or your abilities and accomplishments with those of others. You are free to follow the God-given plan for your life.

If you allow other people to become a law to you, thinking you must be like them, it steals your freedom, and it’s no one’s fault but your own. Likewise, you must not judge others or expect them to be like you.

Determine now that you will enjoy the liberty of living in God’s will…and allow others to live in liberty as well.”

–Joyce Meyer in “Ending Your Day Right” [Day July 24]


What do you think? Do you lack self-confidence to simply be yourself? Do you ever feel like the person you are isn’t acceptable?



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  1. Laurie - the Adventurous Writer - July 25, 2013 Reply

    K’Lee, thank for this encouragement to be me! Sometimes I have trouble expressing myself. My husband and I have been married for almost nine years, and we spent our first five years debating this topic. What would happen is that I’d “express myself” and he would be offended or hurt, and he’d “express himself.” So I’d have to express myself back, and … you get the drift.

    So I struggle with this notion. It seems very clear in theory, but it’s actually more complex in practice. Of course, there are other things going on, as well…but it’s a great topic to talk about! It’s important to have open communication in any relationship, to talk about what this big thing means to each of us 🙂

    Stay true to you,
    Laurie – the Adventurous Writer recently posted..How to Know When to Leave a Relationship

  2. ramona - July 25, 2013 Reply

    Visiting from UBC. This is a lovely post! A while back I heard a quote “Comparison is the death of joy”. I’m not sure who said it but I love it. I’ve written it inside all of my writing notebooks! I’ve found I’m often my own worst enemy because I compare myself and my successes to others. With the help of a great life coach, I’ve learned to start letting go of that. It has been one of the big steps I’ve made in changing my life.
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  3. Francene Stanley - July 26, 2013 Reply

    I love that quote. So true. I wrote a blog about fashion today with the same message. Followers of fashion give away their freedom.
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  4. Melinda - July 26, 2013 Reply

    Great post! I do struggle with comparing myself to others.

  5. Heather - July 27, 2013 Reply

    I don’t compare myself to others as much as I don’t give myself enough credit. Freedom is about being comfortable with who you are and how God made you. Thanks for this lovely post, K’Lee.
    Heather recently posted..Souvenirs You Never Lose

  6. Liz Who Motivates - July 28, 2013 Reply

    Great post! Happiness really is an inside job. I’m right where I am supposed to be. I generally don’t compare myself to others since I have learned and teach others to be comfortable in their own skin. Nice quote by Joyce Meyers too! 🙂
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